Why?

Have you ever asked “Why?” to someone? or to yourself?

Good. Then I am not alone…hee hee!

One of the few things you need to be aware of in this stage of the treasure hunt, is both the power and stupidity of the question “Why”

Why?

(sorry, couldn’t resist!)

 

When we ask “Why”, what are you expecting to find as the answer?

 

1. underlying meaning (ex. Why are we searching for the ‘God’ particle in Geneva?)

2. cause (ex. Why did the building collapse?)

3. purpose (ex. Why is there life on earth?)

4. Reason (ex. Why do I hate this job?)

5. intention (ex. Why did the CEO sell the company?)

6. explanation (ex. Why did you spend so much money on a stupid phone?)

7. argument (ex. Why will this not work?)

8. confusion (ex. why did he suddenly stop calling me?)

9. helplessness (ex. Why did he have to die this way?)

10. disbelief (ex. Why did you cheat on me?)

11. knowledge (ex. Why does the sky look blue?)

12. shock (e.x Why did he behave like that?)

 

These are the top motives I could think of…I am sure there are more

 

But, let’s dig in deeper to see what’s happening behind the scenes…

 

We ask “why”, when we can’t deal with reality, as it unfolds.

Once we ask “why”, we start to look for inputs to form an answer. The inputs could be: sounds, sights, touch, tastes, smells, thoughts

To answer “why”, we have to connect these dots in some way. We play with many combinations.

We finally choose an answer!

When we choose an answer to “Why”, we create a new belief (map).

Our ego gives a cool name to these beliefs – it calls them ‘knowledge’.

Based on this ‘knowledge’, we desire (crave for) some experience

Based on our desire, we take action

We keep acting this way a long time…

Till reality surprises us…by behaving in an unexpected way

And someone again asks: ‘Why’?

and the cycle continues…

 

Some people call this cycle “growing up” or “becoming a more mature person“.

Sorry, but that’s a load of crap!

What is really happening all the time is…

We are continuously jumping from one belief to another

 

Asking “Why?” has great power: because it makes us find an answer somehow: we think, imagine, reason, recall, explore, analyze, synthesize, predict, be creative, challenge etc.

Asking “Why?” is also very stupid: because, whatever answer you get, doesn’t help you become free. Instead, it only conditions you even more. It makes you cling to new beliefs.

 

Hmmm… now that we see the problem…how do we handle this on the way to Aha?

Reflect and pick a strategy that works for you.

A few tips:

It’s not about keeping your eyes closed and look at nothing anymore…because, thinking the world is full of danger is also a belief!

It’s not about being cynical…because, thinking the world is untrustworthy is also a belief!

It’s not about blindly doing everything that comes your way…..because, that’s not wisdom!

 

To taste freedom –we need freedom from the cycle of beliefs!

How?

Find the weakest link! Attack that!

The weakest link is the point when you allow an answer to ‘Why’ to become a hard, frozen map in your mind!

Don’t allow that to happen

Unfreeze it!

 

Then..

You’ll see the world, and yourself, unfolding new – every moment, everyday and in every way!

You don’t have to deal with reality, when you can be one with it all the time.

Drop the baggage. Feel the relief!

Aha!